Hey, FMLL: Am I horrible in bed?

sexcommonworriesDude, seriously. Is that a real question? Cuz, if it is, then you are in more trouble than even you might think.

On the chance that this is a serious issue for you, I’m gonna need more info. I don’t know if you, yourself, are actually bad in bed (and unless I happen to meet a woman who’s been with you and who is willing to rat you out, I never will)or if you just lost your confidence. Those are two questions you’re gonna have to answer yourself. If you have an ex who you are still good friends with, ask her about your bedroom performance. Chances are it was fine, and it really is your confidence that needs fixing.

Now, that being said, what about those times when we (and I do mean “WE”) have off nights. It could be due to stress at work or school, maybe you had one too many and..when it came time to make her cum…well, we’ve all beem there. The thing is, with times like those, it can play hell on our confidence, and that can just send us on an ever descending tailspin in our sexual confidence. We start second guessing ourselves and our lovers. If this sounds like you, don’t throw your ego out the door–deal with the slip ups.

First of all, realize that somethings go wrong and there isn’t jack shit you can do about it. stress is one of those things. Whether it comes from work or school (finals and thesis obligations come to mind for me, first),or money problems, all of these can kill “The Mood” faster than thinking about Laura Bush doing a naked pole dance on a cold day.

Stress also has the fucked up side effect of making us think, “Hey, a couple of shots, and I’m good to go!”. You always start out thinking just a couple, but before long, you’re shit-faced and trying to get it up for a woman who is rapidly getting bored and frustrated waiting for you to get Mr. Happy standing at attention. Booze kills sex, man. Sure, it’s a great stress releaser, but it seriously hampers your ability to get it up and get it on. If stress is a factor in your life, you gotta meet it head on and deal with it head on, not try to drink it out of existence.

Try and remember this: if you’re questioning your abilities in the bedroom, you’re in danger of sliding down the slope of no self-esteem, which will turn what is a temporary (or even imaginary) slump into a permanent state of being. Don’t psych yourself out, man. See your bedroom stumble as a one time thing; something stressed you out, or you had too much to drink. Whatever it was, it was temporary. If needed, try shaking things up in the bedroom for a change. Try a different position (it doesn’t always have to be: you on top/her on top/you behind). Role playing can even be enough to shake you out of your slump.

“But, what if there really is a problem?”, you might ask. Well, for every problem, there’s an answer. All you have to do is find it. And the first place to look is on the ‘net. LoveCentria, imo, is the best place to get tips and ideas to make every lovemaking session the best you (or she) has ever had.

LoveCentria. What I can’t answer, they sure as hell can.